Stop Being Cheap In Life (Part One)


Picture of a miser.

Don’t be cheap!

Stop being cheap. That’s an important life lesson that I had to learn that has tremendously improved my life. It’s something that I believe that many other people probably need to learn too.

I believe that being cheap can block your blessings. And not only that but, I also believe that it can cause mental trauma, self-esteem issues and a miser’s mentality.

What!!!”, you may be saying to yourself. “All of that?”

Yes, and I’ll explain.

Words are powerful.

The Bible says that there is “life and death” in the power of the tongue.

Words have inspired people to build nations. Words have brought down nations. They have inspired people to reach for the highest heights of development. Words have motivated people to work for the betterment of society. And they have caused people to lay down their lives for principles in which they believed.

Words move us. They inspire us. They lead our minds down paths that can ultimately lead to success or failure.

And when a person is constantly infusing their mind with negative words the mind begins to outwardly manifest that negativity in the person’s life.

Now, what does that have to do with being cheap?

Okay, I’ll tell you. But first let me pose a few questions to you.

How would you feel if your child’s school sent home a note that said that they’d gotten a great deal on some CHEAP food and, would start serving it tomorrow for lunch?

What would you say to the doctor that told you right before your open heart surgery that he had saved you a few bucks on the heart valve that he was about to implant in you by buying a cheap one?

How would you feel if your close friends and family came up to you at the celebration of your biggest accomplishment and, said these things: “I got this cheap gift for you to show how much I care about you”, or “They had better gifts than this but this one was cheaper”, or “I think the world of you and I got you a cheap gift to show you”.

Now I know that some people will probably say, “But it’s the thought that counts”.

And I agree.

And in a way that saying proves my point.

What thoughts enter your mind when you hear the word “cheap”? Is it love? Thoughtfulness? Consideration? Abundance? Quality?

Probably not.

You probably think of “inferior”, “low-quality”, or “low value”.

A gift is a way of expressing appreciation.

Love and care can be a gift. And those things can’t be valued in terms of money.

When I use the word cheap, I’m not just talking about money. I’m talking about a mentality. Having a “cheap” mentality.

A mentality that is always looking for “cheap”, “cheaper”, or the “cheapest”. I’m also talking about word choice. And the power that words have in helping to chart the direction of our lives.

I believe that when we continually focus on “cheap”, we will eventually come to believe that “cheap” is our worth.

We start believing that inferior, low-quality, and low value is all that we deserve. We accept those things as how life is suppose to be. And it’s not.

We begin to accept those traits in our relationships and our daily lives. We settle.

Now I totally understand the economic climate that we live. Times can be hard and we should try to be wise and faithful stewards of our resources. Every dollar that we earn or receive should be valued and appreciated. I believe that we should always try and find ways to get the most out of our money.

I enjoy finding a good “bargain”. (Notice my word choice.) I like finding a good sale on something that I need at a price lower than I expected to pay. It’s okay to be frugal.

I believe that the damage happens when we become obsessive about it. When we focus on “cheap” instead of focusing on “getting the best value”, or “saving money”.

And here’s a quick thought:

When people say that they saved money because they bought “cheap”, do they take that money and put it in a savings or investment account where it can REALLY provide them with more value? Or do they use it to buy more “cheap”?

Being cheap can damage our minds because it can reinforce the belief that things are never worth the cost that we have to pay. And that’s just not true.

And having a cheap mentality can be especially harmful to entrepreneurs because we get back from the world what we put out. And if the only thing that you send out is, “cheap, cheaper, or cheapest”, then how will you feel when a person only wants the same in exchange for your product or service?

What will you say when a person wants you to devalue your work to a level that they deem appropriate? Or wants you to give a discount on the time, energy, and hard work that you’ve invested in your offering.

It’s no fun. It’s disheartening. And it can be depressing.

In my opinion, being cheap is a quick way to becoming miserly.

It’s a form of selfishness because it’s focus can lead to hoarding. Picture that…a selfish miserly hoarder! Would YOU want to be that type of person? (A fist held tight can not receive.)

Finding a bargain can be fun. Saving money is great! Comparison shopping is wise. But being cheap is not always a good thing.

It’s okay to pay full price. It’s okay to sometimes spend a little extra. It’s okay to buy things based on their value to you without regard to their costs.

However, it’s not okay to be wasteful, foolish, or a spendthrift.

Now, after reading this you may think that it’s just a matter of words.

And you’d be right.

It is.

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Here’s a list of words that can be substituted for the word cheap:

Inexpensive, low-cost*, economical, modest, nominal.

*(Notice that even Walmart advertises itself as “the low-cost leader”.)